Cape Coral Marriage Counseling – The Pounding Heart (Part 1)

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Cape Coral Marriage Counseling – The Pounding Heart (Part 1)

Over 170 years ago, in 1843, writer Edgar Allen Poe wrote the “The Tell-Tale Heart.”The main character is about a man who decides to kill an older man living in his house. But it is more than that, says Cape Coral marriage counseling as well as Cape Coral Marriage Counseling. It is a story about guilt.

The associates at Cape Coral marriage counseling agree. Guilt has a role to play in marriages. It signals husbands and wives that they have done something wrong that threatens the vitality of the marital bond. When the sense of guilt is weak, it is less likely that a spouse will be constrained by it or feel the need to confess the wrong. Marriages are more likely to totter. When guilt is strong, on the other hand, it is more likely that the guilt partner will not continue in the behavior, and will admit the wrongdoing. Spouses are then more likely to work things through in a constructive way.

Consider the role that guilt played in Poe’s fictional story. After the story is summarized below, remarks Cape Coral marriage counseling, we will further consider its relevance to marriage.

The Story

This younger man noted, “It is impossible to say how first the idea entered my brain; but once conceived, it haunted me day and night. Object there was none. Passion there was none. I loved the old man. He had never wronged me. He had never given me insult….  [but] very gradually -I made up my mind to take the life of the old man…

“You fancy me mad. [but] Madmen know nothing… You should have seen me. You should have seen how wisely I proceeded‑ with what caution – with what foresight‑ with what masking of true intent I went to work! I was never kinder to the old man than during the whole week before I killed him.”

Without going into details, this man commits his intended murder one dark night. He hid the lifeless body under the wooden floor planks in the old man’s bedroom. Then, before dawn, at 4 o’clock in the morning, three policemen come to the house. A neighbor reported hearing a scream. The younger man said it was his voice from a nightmare. He also told the police that the old man was out of town. He then proceeded to show the police the room of the old man to bolster his story.

While talking to the police, the young man thinks he hears a ringing in his ears, but he soon realizes that the ringing wasn’t coming from his ears. See part 2 for the conclusion of the story.

If you need assistance resolving conflict in your marriage relationship, contact Dr. Ken Newberger, Ph.D., Conflict Analysis and Resolution,  He serves Lee and Collier counties in Southwest Florida, including the cities of Naples, Fort Myers, Cape Coral, Estero, and Bonita Springs.

Learn more on his website, http://www.MarriageCounselingAlt.com/couples. An outline to his cutting-edge alternative to traditional marriage counseling is outlined there. Feel free to call him at 239-689-4266 for a complementary initial phone consultation.

 

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