This Picture Isn’t Complete
Without Both of You
What God Has Joined Together
Let No One Separate
Learn How This Alternative to Traditional
Marriage Counseling Works
“Dr. Ken, I really appreciate how intuitive you
were at understanding issues in my marriage.”
— Grateful Client
Step 1: Call Me
If your marriage is struggling, you don't have to figure it out alone. I'm Dr. Ken Newberger, a conflict resolution specialist with years of experience. I help couples get to the heart of what's not working — and rebuild a connection that lasts.
Many couples think they have a communication problem when in fact they have a connection problem. When someone feels unseen or is not understood, they escalate or shut down. When they escalate, words do damage. When they shut down, distance grows. The process I use breaks the pattern that's been driving you apart.
If you'd like to discuss your situation, call me at 703-483-0031. We'll talk about what's going on, go over how I work, and whether moving forward makes sense. If it does, the Testing the Waters session is a low-commitment way to go deeper together.
Ph.D., Conflict Analysis & Resolution | Th.M., Dallas Theological Seminary
The “Testing the Waters” Session
This is a two-hour video session. The first hour I'll ask you questions. The second hour you'll each share your hopes and concerns. To get started with your Testing the Waters session:
• Email me your contact information.
• I'll send you a brief to-do list to prepare for our meeting
After the Testing the Waters session, we'll have a clearer picture of where things stand between you and whether you want to proceed with the process described below.
“We continue to heal. You made me confront
things and answer hard questions that
I avoided for years. Your coming
alongside us was a Godsend.”
— Relieved Client
Step 2: Uncover What's Going On
“We’re happy to report that our marriage is
stronger than ever! Of course we put the
work in to get the results, but it was Dr.
Newberger who diagnosed the issues
and proposed the solutions.”
— Happy Client
Step 3: Reconnect as a Couple
By our second joint session, we'll begin gently shifting how you relate, building on the insights you've already gained. Each session builds on the last, offering practical tools to help you navigate challenges and repair your bond. Together, we'll turn insight into lasting change.
Keep in mind, progress largely comes down to two things you control: your desire to strengthen the relationship and your willingness to make the changes that support it. When both are present, meaningful progress is not just possible, but likely. The quote in the blue banner above summarizes what the process looks like in real life.
Premium Services & Pricing
How Often Do We Meet: We typically meet three times a month for 90-minute sessions. Most couples complete the process in 3–9 joint sessions.
Pricing
Free Support Between Sessions: Each of you receives up to 15 minutes of telephone or email support between sessions without charge.
Preparation Time: The rate includes my preparation at no additional charge.
No Cancellation Charge. Things happen. If you need to cancel an appointment, you won’t be penalized.
Work-Friendly Hours: I offer day and evening hours to accommodate your work schedule.
Faith-Friendly. I offer a Judeo-Christian framework to support your marriage — always available, never imposed.
Private Pay: My work as an interpersonal conflict resolution specialist is not covered by medical insurance.
Help Is Closer Than You Think
Research confirms what I've seen firsthand: online sessions are just as effective as in-office ones, and for busy couples they eliminate traffic and commute time.
● Here’s one client’s online experience:
“The entire process ran smoothly. We never felt like we were missing out on anything. We truly enjoyed the virtual sessions because they allowed us to be more relaxed in our own environment and we didn't have to take the time to travel to an office. We also felt like the virtual sessions were less intimidating than in-person sessions. Overall, the experience was very rewarding.”
● If you’re unsure whether to meet in-office or virtually, the ‘Testing the Waters’ session can help you decide.
Common Questions
▶ How do we know if we are good candidates?
Good candidates are couples who can both honestly answer True to the following:
- There is no physical abuse in our relationship.
- There is no ongoing affair — or I am willing to completely end one.
- There are no unaddressed addiction issues (alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, etc.)
- There are no known mental health or trauma-related issues that have not been professionally addressed.
- We both genuinely want our marriage to succeed.
- I am willing to take responsibility for my contribution to the breakdown of the relationship.
- I am willing to make changes regardless of what my spouse does.
- I am willing to carry out relationship-building exercises between sessions.
If you both answered True to all statements, you have an excellent chance of repairing your relationship. If any are false, call Dr. Newberger at 703-483-0031 at no charge to discuss whether now is the right time to begin.
▶ What makes this approach different from traditional marriage counseling?
Goals — Traditional counseling is non-directive, often without a clear finish line. This process is goal-oriented from day one — focused on reconciliation, not just conversation.
Labeling — Therapists must assign a psychiatric diagnosis to bill insurance. This process carries no labels, no permanent medical records — just focused help for your marriage.
Core Issues — The Conflict Analysis Tool, used with over 1,000 clients, identifies what's really driving your conflict — far more accurately than early-session guesswork.
Session Length — Traditional therapy runs 45–50 minutes. Sessions here are a full 60 minutes.
Preparation — Most counselors spend 10 frantic minutes between clients. Dr. Newberger devotes an hour or more to preparing for each session — arriving with sharp focus and a clear plan to move things forward.
▶ What if my spouse is reluctant or won't join me?
Even if your spouse won't join, you're not stuck. Coaching for one can still strengthen your relationship. Think Newton's cradle balls — every action produces a reaction. When you start to change, your partner will often respond in kind. Feel free to call Dr. Newberger at ▶ Do you work with couples where infidelity is involved?
Yes, I have and do. I understand that infidelity can feel like the end of the road, and that the path to recovery may seem overwhelming. But there is real hope. Many couples have rebuilt their relationships and discovered a deeper connection than ever before. The first essential step is clear: the affair must be completely over. From there, healing begins — understanding what happened, why, and carefully restoring trust, one step at a time. Call Dr. Newberger at 703-483-0031 to see if now is the right time to start.
▶ Is this therapy?
No, this isn't therapy. I'm a conflict resolution specialist with a Ph.D. in Conflict Analysis & Resolution, not a licensed therapist. That distinction matters. When therapists bill insurance, they must assign a psychiatric diagnosis to at least one spouse, which becomes part of your permanent medical record. You came for help with your marriage and leave labeled as “narcissistic” having a “personality disorder,” etc. My work carries no such labels. I focus on understanding each of you as individuals — without pigeonholing you with a label that doesn’t reflect who you truly are.
▶ What is the cost of rebuilding your marriage vs. dissolving it?
Rebuilding your marriage is a one-time investment, typically $2,000–$6,000. Divorce, by contrast, can cost $15,000–$30,000 or more in legal fees alone for a contested case, plus ongoing expenses like two households, child support, and divided assets — leaving both spouses financially worse off for years. Beyond money, divorce profoundly disrupts children's well-being and social development. And second marriages carry a higher divorce rate than first. See the full comparison →
▶ Do we have to be religious to work with you?
No. I offer a Judeo-Christian framework — but it is never imposed. Couples of all backgrounds and beliefs have successfully gone through this process.
Other Questions?
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