Rebuild Your Marriage: Alternative to Traditional Marriage Counseling

Here is the Way Forward to
Repair Your Relationship

Phase One:  Testing the Waters

  1. Call me, Dr. Ken Newberger, for a FREE phone consultation to discuss your situation. My telephone number is 239-689-4266.

  2. Initial Joint Session.  During the initial meeting, I will ask each of you a series of questions to learn more about you and your situation and to confirm that my area of expertise in resolving conflict and promoting harmony matches your needs. This session will also give both of you an opportunity to assess your comfort level with me.

    • Prior to the meeting I will email you a copy of the ground rules to read. We will sign it at the beginning of the meeting.  Click here to enter contact info.  to type in your contact information in the pop-up box.

    • Cost: $125 for an extended initial session lasting up to 1 hour and 15 minutes.

Phase Two:  Accelerated Immersion Into Your Lives

  1. Prepare/Enrich Couple's Assessment. (a) This unsurpassed diagnostic instrument captures information about the major facets of your relationship. Like an x-ray into your relationship, the results promptly reveal what would otherwise take weeks if not months to uncover, saving you time and money. This tool has been administered to over 3 million couples (over 6 million people). I have been a certified facilitator since 1988. The assessment will take you about 35-45 minutes to complete online. Click here after you receive your code. You will pay $35 directly to Life Innovations for the assessment and to score your answers. (b) I will subsequently read, analyze, and develop notes on the results of your 25-page computer generated report.

  2. Confidential Questionnaires. (a) You will complete a 3-page questionnaire. It is specifically crafted for couples experiencing tension in their relationship. You will each provide information about your respective backgrounds and perspective on the relationship. You will be answering questions you likely have never been asked before, the answers to which provide real insight into what is really going on between the two of you. It may take you a couple of days to think through and answer these questions. (b) After you send your answers back to me, I will read, analyze, and develop notes on what you wrote.

  3. Conflict Analysis Tool.  (a)  The tool looks at you and your relationship in three different ways.  First, this tool looks at how strong (secure) or weak (insecure) your relational bond is. If it is weak, what does the pattern of disconnect look like? Understanding this helps identify where to begin the repair.  Second, it looks at the impact conflict in the relationship is having on each of you individually.  Third, this tool reviews past relationships with significant others in your life, helping to identify long-standing interpersonal patterns of behavior.  Note:  After payment is made using the button below, you will automatically be transferred to the appropriate web page. You can begin answering the questions at that time, or write down the web address and return to it later. This assessment will take you about 35-45 minutes to complete. (b) After you both complete this assessment tool, I will read, analyze, and develop notes on your results.
$275 per couple for 3b, 4b, 5b above, and 7, 8 below. This represents well over
5 hours of work on your behalf (more than a 50% discount off my normal rate).
  1. Individual Meetings. You will each schedule a private session with me. The purpose of this meeting is to understand your perspective and experience in the relationship without challenge from your partner. Your responses to the questionnaire, as well as information gleaned from the two assessment tools, will be used as the basis for this one-on-one session. This very important meeting typically runs 1½ to 2 hours.
    • $110 per hour.
  1. In-Depth Analysis of Your Case.  Prior to your second joint meeting, I will spend hours poring over all the data I gathered from multiple sources: results from the Prepare/Enrich Assessment, each of your responses to the Conflict Analysis Tool, your Individual Questionnaires, and notes from each of your individual sessions (paragraphs 3 thru 6 above).  As a result of my analysis, you are able to bypass weeks of information gathering sessions that, quite frankly, would not yield nearly as much insight about you and how the two of you interact as provided by these tools. The process of repairing and rebuilding your relationship begins in your second joint session. In advance of this meeting, and as a result of my prior analysis, I will thoughtfully develop a goal-oriented agenda tailored to the two of you.

Phase Three:  Rebuilding Your Relationship

  1. Throughout the Proceedings each of you will be given the opportunity to tell your story. Differences in perspectives will be explored. To the greatest extent possible, barriers to communication will be removed and replaced by open and honest conversation. Various factors contributing to your conflict will be identified. Solutions that address core issues and enhance reconciliation will be pursued. Relationship building exercises will be assigned. For each session, I will create a new agenda based on the progress made. There is no additional charge for this ongoing, behind-the scenes analysis of your relationship. This adds up to hours of work, free of charge, over the course of our time together. The overarching goal throughout this deliberate process is to transform your stressed and conflicted marriage into a more stable, peaceful, and loving one.

    Rates and Time Frame
    • $110 per hour.  (I do not take insurance).

    • Session Length:  Sessions are typically 1½ to 2 hours in length.

    • Frequency:  We will meet on a weekly  or  every other week basis (depending on your situation).  Sessions become less frequent and shorter as the relationship improves.

    • The above rate applies for phone appointments, review of documents, writing/editing projects, and all other services.

    • A brief advisory phone call of less than 10 minutes between sessions is free.

Summary of Process